I wasn’t sure I should write this post but I was thinking about how we go about maintaining a positive outlook when the tough times come and I thought I’d throw some thoughts down on something that I’ve worked through in the past 24 hours
As you know I’m a runner. I like running, running likes me, and I put my ‘discovery’ of running down as one of the main reasons that I turned my life around and got to find the ‘real me’.
Yesterday I had a motivational issue and I just couldn’t get myself off the sofa to get out for the 10-mile run I had planned. Instead what happened was I ate, and I ate, and I ate.
Off the top of my head, my food intake yesterday amounted to over 3,000kcals. If I tracked it I fear it would be much more than that. A proper Vegan junk food binge.
Way too much for my current body weight and for the lack of exercise I did. Every time I ate it perpetuated the disappointment I felt in myself but the more upset I felt with myself, the more I ate as I craved a quick fix to my problem.
Classic emotional eating!
Why did this happen?
It stemmed from an unfortunate coming together with what I call an ‘energy vampire’.
We’ve all got them in our lives.
The kind of person who seems to have a dark cloud following them, they believe the world is against them and everything revolves around them.
They have countless problems and issues but don’t want to listen to advice, only moan moan and moan a bit more rather than doing the work needed to make improvements in their lives.
They have low energy and if you spend any time with them their outlook starts to infect you like a virus until you feel like absolute shit.
That’s what happened to me. I spent time with them. I tried to help. I couldn’t. I came away feeling drained, depressed and upset that I had ‘failed’ to achieve my primary function – to help.
To be honest, I wished that I didn’t ever need to see them again.
This made me feel terrible.
And as a Personal Trainer it's so important that my clients get the best version of me so I can give them the support and motivation they need to get through a tough workout. I can't be depressed!
Then I spent sometime in my own thoughts and appreciated that sometimes people aren’t in the right place to be helped. They simply don’t want it and you can’t force it on them. All you can do is try to fight that negativity with your own positivity and be there for them, ready for when they do want to take the first step to a happier and more fulfilled life.
Their problems are not your problems so you must not take what they say as being personal as they are dealing with their issues in the only way they know how and all you can do is listen. Sometimes that’s all it takes.
Sometimes by allowing them to vocalize their problems it’s enough to make them come to a positive conclusion on their own.
It’s taken me over 24hrs to get through this and I’ve now been out for a run, treated myself to a little bit of chocolate and I’m now back on track.
So if you find yourself in the same position then take a step back, meditate, use your support network to help you through this difficult moment as you don't fall off your healthy eating bandwagon like I did.
Exercise your willpower by focusing on what you’re trying to achieve and be conscious that the real you is not going to be found in the 3rd bag of microwave popcorn in the same way it wasn’t in the 1st or 2nd.
Allow the negativity to leave your body before it damages you emotionally and affects your chances of achieving your goals.
Tell me, do you know people like this? How do you deal with it? I'd love to chat