I meet many people in Horsham. Some of these people have weight-loss goals and know that they need to invest in themselves to achieve them. Some are trying to become fitter so they can live long and happy lives and watch their children grow up. Others have events that they want to do.
Ultimately whether or not we succesfully hit out goals boils down to the decisions we make. Some big, some small.
See the thing is that we all have choices and for the large part we are the determining driver of the choices we make. By that I mean that we have direct control over these choices. Although other people may have influence on the situation it is the decisions you & I make that will determine the outcome.
Put it like this. I speak to so many women who struggle with their weight because of their dietary habits. They do things such as eating bundles of biscuits every day or snacking on their kids foods mid-preparation. I get it, it's a habit and these can be difficult to break and is something that can be done completely without rhyme nor reason. Sometimes you don't even realise you're doing it before it's too late!
I'm often asked by clients what they should do to stop this.
I'm always honest (I can't be anything other than that!) so I try to explain to people that all you can be is mindful and in the moment. When you stick your hand in the cookie jar and pull out one or two or three of those delicious buttery, fatty, sugar-laden, 300kcal cookies you have to stop for 1 second and think - "is this going to help me achieve my goal?"
9.9 times out of 10 the answer is going to be No.
But then what happens? People eat the cookie any way. Then they eat another and another and another. They're damn tasty and moreish but it's not long before the guilt starts, then the weight loss doesn't happen, then the person loses interest and they cry "but i've tried everything" or "i do lots of exercise and STILL the weight won't drop off".
Then they decide they won't do any more exercise with a committed expert because it "hasn't worked" and they go off and try the latest faddy piece of shit equipment and ridiculous Daily Mail beach body diet because the headline says they'll lose 24st in 3 days.
Maybe I should improve my patter but I can always see the moment when people's eyes glaze over when I explain about mindfulness and training yourself to take a slow and steady approach to improving habits. Quite honestly it's a little frustrating!
The fact is it takes time.
But this isn't the answer people are looking for. They want another '9 Top Tips' list of things they can do. They want a mantra to say to themselves to stop them over-eating. They want to try hypnotherapy. They want '6 Foods to Boost your Metabolism' because that infographic looks pretty and has been put out on the internet by somebody with rock hard abs and 600000000 followers on Instagram.
Here's the truth.
You haven't tried everything.
You've done something for 5 minutes then as soon as you've found things a little bit difficult you've given up and you've reverted right back to your old habits.
You've barely scratched the surface.
You can't out train a shit diet.
It's that simple.
I was asked last night how I lost my weight and how I stay lean now. Sorry to say but there's no magic secret to it and if anyone suggests otherwise they're lying to you.
My continued journey and relative success is due to running loads and eating well. That's it. There is no magic wand that I waved. I worked hard & work harder still to maintain a steady weight more than 5st lighter than I was a few years ago.
There is no pill, no potion, no cabbage soup diet that will give you a long-term result. Your weight has increased over TIME. Your weight can decrease over TIME, but only if you put in the required effort.
You will need to get well and truly out of your comfort zone but then that's when you will grow, develop and improve.
If you want to make a lasting change then you have to choose to INVEST IN YOU. You have to be prepared to put in the time, the sweat and quite often - the money. If it's truly important to you, you will.